Yesterday made one week without any type of sexual activity. I'm happy. As a man I think there are all types of double standards as it relates to sex and I want out.
Women are brought up with the notion of don't give up the milk, without making a sale for the cow.
But-- the problem w/ this line of thinking is that the MILK does NOT come free. So many strings are attached to the milk it's as though a spider has captured the milk for the kill. The milk is just not worth it.
Not to mention my sexual appetite has grown to all but insatiable levels. I found myself doing things I would never have considered before. Sex in a movie theater with people literally sitting in the same row. Or up against the door of the movie theater. With absolutely no protection.
My fantasies and actions have grown farther and farther from the "norm." Considering adding things, like annilingus, and sex while she's on her period to the playbook was a bit of a tip off that maybe I need to get out of the game for awhile. (Not knocking those who do, but just a few months ago I'm sure I would've been disgusted by ME doing these things, now just seems like a walk in the park.. lol).
Not to mention I HATE condoms. And they apparently hate me. And after some exploration there seems to be no other viable forms of protection, except the most heavily recommended-- abstinence.
So at 21 I am going into penis retirement...
Benefits?
100% effective birth control.
Regain some control of my sexual prowess.
Maybe reduce how much I care about sex, which I think it already has.
Get reacquainted with myself -=)
Free up some time.
Better concentration? this cuts both ways though sometimes since not having sex can be more distracting.
NO more pregnancy tests, or day after pills.
No more frantic waiting for her irregular period.
No more being made to feel like I am pressuring ne1 to do nething, because it was nevr that deep neway.
Really the last of three options 1.) not caring 2.) wanting to and now 3.) NOT wanting to.
What I'm not looking forward to?
-Wet dreams, ther is no reminder that you're not getting laid then waking up to surprise-- ur penis had sex without you last night. And now you have to clean it up...I sleep naked -=/
-I do alot of reading and when it touches on sexual subject matter I often learn things I want to try, I guess that's out.
-Whatever change it inevitably will have on my relationship.
-Temptation? Although I think for sex I may operate more like an on/off switch, and definitely firmly in the off position right now.
Oh well, I guess we'll see how this goes. I went 16 years without sex. But once I started boy has it been hard to stop. But I've only had 2 partners. And I don't think either were under the most ideal circumstances which I guess would be marriage (which I am not sure I want to do-- so I don't know how ideal that'd be for me). Or with the capacity of being able to raise children-- also not met. Or with equal sexual experience-- (I've always considered myself the "new learner," although neither partner agreed but I think that has more to do w/ women needing to be/feel virginal than our actual experience but who knows.) So maybe I am closing up shop.. indefinitely?
Sincerely,
Nervous-New-Abstainer -=/
1/08/09 -- mission aborted lol.
Comments (2)
I have the utmost respect for dudes who decide to go into penis retirement. I think it sounds dumb as shit, but good luck :)
Yeah, good luck with that 0.o